In the episode, the therapist said very little and did not engage when the couple was clearly struggling to find some path forward. The therapist appeared cold and withdrawn, almost detached, writing away on her notepad. I, and many of my colleagues, approach working with couples in a very different way. We see ourselves as collaborative, looking to enlist all parties' participation in finding solutions, softening defenses, and re-establishing emotional safety and connection. If you are in a relationship that could benefit from some improved communication (and, honestly, who couldn't?), I invite you to consider therapy as a place of hope and help. Even if a note or two gets jotted down.
Questions for you: Have you ever been to couples' therapy? What worked? Was your experience like that of the characters in Divorce, or was it more relational? I'd love to hear your thoughts.